Why Opt for a Marriage Certificate?
In the past
few generations, the notion of couples living together without a
marriage certificate has become more and more commonplace and less
of the "sin" that it was once considered. Even Hollywood celebrity
couples like Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon, and Goldie Hawn and
Kurt Russell, and many others have opted for long-term
relationships without actually being married. To some, the idea of
asking the government or a religious organization to approve of
your choice of companions seems old-fashioned and outdated. Getting
a marriage certificate is seen as an intrusion, or as something
that just isn't necessary for those who truly love each other and
are committed to each other. Is this really the case, and are there
any real benefits to actually being legally married? What are some
thoughts when it comes to a marriage certificate between two
people?
Obviously no
one can dictate morals standards to someone else; a religion might
teach that living together outside of marriage is sinful, but this
means little to those who don't follow or adhere to those religious
beliefs, or who don't believe in God altogether. And many feel that
a marriage certificate is an intrusion into their personal lives by
the government, as if it's up to a stranger wearing a judge's robe
to tell you what you can and cannot do.
But there is
much more to a marriage certificate than just getting "permission"
from the government when you're committed to someone else.
Obviously many marriage laws are in place to protect innocent
persons from being hurt; most places have outlawed polygamy and
have set minimum ages for marriage in order to protect someone from
a forced marriage or from an arrangement that they're not yet ready
to handle. Applying for a marriage certificate means that you are
going to obey these laws and not marry someone underage or have
multiple spouses. Just like having a driver's license means that
you have a basic understanding of the laws of the road and have
agreed to abide by those laws when behind the wheel, a marriage
certificate is just to be sure that you understand these marriage
laws and are going to abide by them in order to protect your spouse
from any dishonesty on your part.
A marriage
certificate also protects one's property and one's interests in the
marriage. Doctors need to respect the wishes of one's spouse if a
person becomes incapacitated or is in emergency treatment and
unable to speak for himself or herself; without a marriage
certificate, one's wishes might not be respected. There is also the
protection of property in case someone dies or the couple decides
to separate. That marriage certificate means that there will be
fewer questions about property divisions and that both spouses are
going to be protected by the courts when it comes to dividing up
the property or protecting your rights to it. So while everyone
must make their own personal decisions about their relationships,
there are some obvious advantages to opting for a marriage
certificate.
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